So today and yesterday, I've been feeling really stressed that my mom has been bugging me and getting angry at me just because she was angry. She rants her anger out on me and my little sister. It's really getting on my nerves and I just want to flip a table, get a job, then move out of this place and live by myself. Since I'm not rich, I can't do that. I feel like the lord gave me a challenging test T^T
Anyways, this is what mom said to me which I found ridiculous.
Me: *quietly reading manga on computer*
Mom: WHEN WILL YOU EVER STUDY??!!! Even though your on the computer almost everyday you don't even know to work the computer! Don't you know these days that the society lives off of computer???!!!!
Me: I'm not good with computers no matter how much you want to shove me in that area.
Mom: What??!!! Then do you want to become homeless? Don't you know that computers and electronics are the thing now a days??!!!
Me: Well I don't know how to work a computer and no matter how much you want to shove me into that area it's not gonna make a difference, I'm just gonna become what I want to be that I think I'm best at so let me live my life.
Mom: Fine! DO WHATEVER YOU WANT!! You'll regret it later!
And then just right now when it's only 9:21pm, she tells me to go to sleep. I usually sleep at like 12:00am and she never says anything but she's been acting like this for 2-3 straight days. This is how it went:
Me: *Quietly read manga on computer*
Mom: HURRY UP AND GO TO SLEEP! Don't you know what time it is!!???
Me: Ok. *continues reading manga
Mom: Later I'll make sure you regret acting like that towards me! Lay out your dad's futon and turn off all the lights!!
Me: Ok. *continues reading manga*
Don't you think that the way she treats me is like treating a servant? Ranting at me when she wants, telling me to do all the small things since she's lazy. I don't mind laying out the futon and do it BUT I hate the fact that she doesn't realize I DO CLEAN THE HOUSE and that I DO STUDY AND DO MY HOMEWORK.
She thinks I just play around all day! If I really did, I wouldn't have been in 10th grade! If there's even one cup in the sink she gets angry at me. If I don't have time and don't fold my futon she gets angry at me. When she leaves dishes out its ok cuz she was busy.
I honestly am getting to my end point. I've got enough things in school that are making me stressed and angry. Now she's piling everything up even more! I wish I could just live by myself already!
Sorry if I'm ranting but I felt really stressed and needed to get this out of my system since I don't want to bomb my friends with an attitude like my mom.
Can anyone give me ideas and tips on what to do in this situation? Should I just stop eating in front of her and just seclude myself from the family?
I think that you should calmly confront your mother and tell her that you do not appreciate the way she is treating you and tell her that you are doing your responsibilities and that if you feel like you wish to not get in to technology, you want her to understand you. I know it is really hard, but try not to blow up at your mother if she puts you under pressure, because that will make things even worse and might get her even more angry, you can't put out fire with fire. Just calmly confront the situation when you feel your mother is in a better mood to talk. Be gentle and careful about talking to her about how you feel. And don't seclude your self or not eat in front of her, you should be with your family and should be able to eat whenever you want to. Be strong and try your best! Don't hesitate to ask for advice! We all want to help you!
ReplyDeleteLol, thanks but it's ok. I don't blow up on people. Usually on non living things such as the door or anything that's strong enough to withstand my stress :)
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